Time and again, whenever I and a few girlfriends of mine discuss about the issues on gender equality, have we not discussed about our personal incidents. The stereotypical society that we grew up in has always curtailed upon us from developing many skill sets. Many goals which we could have achieved. Many dreams which still lie buried deep inside our hearts.
On one hand it is contemplating to see how women from rural parts of India and across the globe are working hand in hand with men in making the world a better place, on the other hand there still exist men who believe women belong in the kitchen. Also, there exist many women who believe men cannot fancy professions that require only women. Gender equality doesn’t only signify having a job which is gender neutral. Gender equality also means that we as individuals should be able to develop our personal abilities and make decisions without the restrictions set by the prejudices and rigid gender specific roles.
Holding a share in the ancestral property by a daughter of the family: land and gold, is still a far off talk in many places. A woman is meant to serve the men. For the food. For the fruit. That’s what defines a woman. The woman clad in long pallus and ghunghats. Then there are those men who are born with the dream of dancing on the stage and in theatres. No, I am only talking about MEN and not any other so- called gender. When in Bangalore, a guy owns a dance institute to earn his bread and butter, it definitely is a respectable job. But what about the families which go by the terms of men- needs- to- plough facts?
A couple of days back, I happen to browse through netflix and came across a Punjabi movie. It was shown how shameful it is to not having a guy driving a truck in a punjabi family, back in a day. And the father was under the society’s norms to such an extent that he not only made his youngest daughter wear men’s clothes but also got her married to another girl; just to prove his point; just to make his nose high up in the society!
One of my colleague’s elder sister who is a B.A. in Hindi is still a home maker, maybe by choice, but his words conveyed a different message. And I work in a well known MNC. Then there’s another colleague of mine. “I was never allowed to play cricket although I’ve always wanted to.” “That’s a men’s game.” Its ironical that the Women In Blue is 40 plus years old. Then there are those women who think men should pay their bills. Despite of working in a good firm. “Why is the husband for?”
And we believe we have achieved gender equality by sharing clothes from men’s wardrobes and vice versa?
♣ CREDITS ♣
CREATIVE DIRECTION & STYLING | SHIVANI BORUAH
PHOTOGRAPHY & EDITING | PICSPLOT
CONCEPT | Combining denimwear from men’s and women’s wardrobe to portray the idea of gender equality
LOCATION | A DHOBI GHAT in BANGALORE
Oh, BTW, if you are keen on wearing a trouser from your man’s wardrobe, wearing another pair of shorts underneath isn’t bad either, HUH?
~ Stylishly Yours,